Today I was informed that there are girls from my old school taking part in a “pregnancy pact.” For those who don’t know what that means, it is when a group of girls get together and promise to all get pregnant if one of them gets pregnant. Now, don’t get me wrong, I have no problem with teenage parents, what they do is amazing, and I could never do it myself. I just think that these teenage girls would be a better support system for their teenage friend if they were just there to offer what help they could than by intentionally getting pregnant. These girls are changing their lives forever. I highly doubt that they thought through their decision when they made their promise. Do they know how much more difficult college will be with a baby? Do they know how much harder it is to make a relationship work, either with the baby’s father or with another guy they meet? Do they fully understand what they are doing to the father of the baby? He may have great plans to be a doctor, or teacher, or a lawyer that will have to be put on hold if there is a baby in the picture. Like I said, I am by no means judging teen parents. I’m not going to try to pass judgment on these girls who plan their pregnancies. I am just voicing how crazy I think what they’re doing is. These girls should seriously think about the choices they make before they do anything drastic.
I have heard about this before. But if you don't want to pass judgment, allow me to do it for you. What are teens thinking these days with crap like this? Honestly, I think we glorify this a lot. Your point about it changing things for forever is right, I have 2 friends that had kids in college, their relationships suck and they can't take a full load in school because they are focused on the baby and working to support them. Now don't get me wrong the baby can be a blessing, but don't purposefully bring a child into the world before you are ready and responisible enough. Sorry this is one of the things I am passionate about.
ReplyDeleteYou know, it’s ignorance like this that makes me glad to be a male with common sense. Not to sound sexist or cruel, but if a guy finds out that he’s a “baby’s daddy”, he can either drive off or prove that he’s not the father on “Maury”. But all joking aside, what these girls are doing is loyal but incredibly stupid. I would figure that at least one of these girls would be watching “16 and Pregnant”; don’t get me wrong, I hate MTV and everything about it, but that show offers great insight on the detrimental side of teen pregnancies. It’s just stuff like that which makes me say “stop the world, I wanna get off”.
ReplyDeleteyeah we got a letter in the mail from RBHS the other day explaining exactly what you said. it would be a terrible things for these girls to do. its probly a bunch of juniors and seniors who seen the baby boom last year and seen all their friends doing it so they are like "hey. looks fun. i think i want to do that." just stupid. i could never even think about raising a kid at my age with my schooling situation and income not being as high as it could be yet. kids these days. i tell ya lol
ReplyDeleteI've heard that it's actually freshman and sophomores, which makes it even worse in my opinion. These girls can't even drive and they're having babies?? Seriously? They are younger than my brother. Babies having babies, I tell ya.
ReplyDeleteI also find it hilarious that so far, only guys have posted an opinion about this.
ReplyDeleteIt is stupid. I mean, who in their right mid would do that? The best support from a friend would be for them to be there with the pregnant girl and for them to babysit or something. The girls don't realize how much it is going to suck when they can no longer go out to the mall and do fun teenage stuff, if they get pregnant, the only thing they will be able to do is sit around and talk about their babies like old ladies talk about their grand kids. This most likely would never have started if that T.V. show didn't ever air about girls doing that, it just shows how influenced kids are by T.V. and how they need to check back into reality and sdee that things aren't always as cool as they seem on T.V.
ReplyDeleteHave you ever sat down and actually watched an episode of Teen Mom. They don't glamorize pregnancy or being a teenage parent. They feed you the facts, it's hard stuff. I don't agree that the TV is making that big of an impact on their decisions. I agree that they should be there to support them, like with babysitting, or emotional support. I think more girls are getting pregnant because it is more socially acceptable for a young person to be a parent.
ReplyDeleteYes a letter came to my house too because my sister is a sophomore this year. I just do not understand it. A baby is the completely last thing on my mind so I do not understand why it is on the minds of 14 or 15 year olds. My sister told me that on Facebook all the guys are posting comments like ill be your test run and ill give you some practice which is wrong for them to be saying. Its also like they are okay with the fact that they could be a daddy. I just do not understand it.
ReplyDeleteWhat the girls are doing is stupid. They need to think about what they want to do in life like go to school. How are they going to support their child? Have they ever stopped to think about what it is like to raise a child, what it takes? I am a single mom trying to go to school, work, and raise a family and it sucks. There is not much time I have to myself. I have to work so I can have money to support my family. I just hope these girls take to somebody before they do this. You should wait to have a child. You should have a good job so you can support your family even better you should be married.
ReplyDeleteThey are being stupid. I'm not afraid to pass judgement. It is very irresponsible to bring a child into the world for some 'pact.' That can destroy her and the probably unknowning fathers life. Both of my sisters did stupid stuff like that, and now they are over 30 and still havn't gotten their life on track. These kids needs to stop and think what they are doing, and think how this will affect them, the father, the baby.
ReplyDeleteKids shouldn't be having kids, especially not in this way.
I can't get over of why girls would do such a thing in the first place. Why do something just because someone else did it? Just last week I heard that there are three girls that are pregnant in my old high school. One a senior, one a junior, and one a sophomore. And on top of all of that there is a freshman this year that had a baby last year. Yes she was in eighth grade and had a baby with a junior. I could not believe it either when I first heard it. I might be a teenager myself but I am certainty not that stupid to get myself pregnant. Shut I can barley plan for tomorrow let alone to plan for a baby that is coming in nine months or less. I really would like to know what is wrong with young girls these days.
ReplyDeleteWOW! What is wrong with people. I swear the world is getting more and more stupid. I mean, how ridculous can you get? Stuff like this just blows my mind. To be honest everyone just needs to control their urges and problem solved. But, we all know how hard that is of course. Definatley not the easiest thing in the world. And controllign those urges isnt for everyone, Im sure. But atleast be smart about it.. there are such things as birtch and condoms and pulling out. Heck be smart and do all three. But then, retards like this say hey to make you feel better we will get pregnant to and the problem is solved. Now I hope if the situation arises they come to their senses, if they have any, and actually just try to be a good friend that helps out. Not make it hard on all of them.
ReplyDeletePeople really are not that bright these days. These girls are acting like irresponsible, little kids. They have no understanding about how hard life really is between paying bills and going to school and now they want to throw an innocent baby into all of this. Yes, it is wrong of these girls (and if one of them were my daughter, I would tan her hide) but, the baby’s fathers are to blame too. The guys should are capable of saying no, or putting a condom on, it’s only common sense (now, on the other hand, it wouldn’t be their fault if the girls tampered with the condom in some way). They are creating a living being that not only them, but their families will have to be responsible for. They all need their asses beaten for being so stupid. It’s one thing to have an accidental baby, but doing it on purpose is uncalled for.
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